Day 202: Divorce

Dinner Menu:

• Risotto aux légumes
• Salade verte
• Yaourt de brebis et banane

Samantha (my ex-wife) is staying with us for a couple of nights, as she is visiting Paris.  People are often surprised that I have a perfectly friendly relationship with my ex.  I find that strange as my parents, one my uncles, my sister and some of my cousins are divorced and still manage to have perfectly good relationships with their previous partners. It seems to me that relationships can only improve after a divorce.  What is hard is living with someone! Living apart should be quite easy for two people who are no longer in love.  Aha, I hear the objection, what if one of the two remains "in love" or (more likely) is still infatuated ? The result should be the same if you love someone and they don't love you back you should still have overall good feelings towards them (since you love them?).  And if you don't love each other there is no tension and therefore things should be easy.  And yet so often love seems to turn to hate or intense dislike rather than friendliness.  It's as if you were a communist one day and then became a fascist ?  Shouldn't that evolution be more gradual?