Dinner Menu:
Today Gallya (my girlfriend from a long time ago) arrived with her husband and 2 children. They will be spending the week with me here in the Gers, in addition to :
- Blanquette de veau
- Riz basmatti
- Salade verte
- Fromages
Today Gallya (my girlfriend from a long time ago) arrived with her husband and 2 children. They will be spending the week with me here in the Gers, in addition to :
- my "current" wife
- my ex-wife
- my mother
- her current husband
- my father
- his current wife
- my sister
- her current partner
- my half-sister
- and assorted children, nieces and nephews
Often people are surprised that my divorced parents still get on and that I still have friendly relations with my ex-wife. But to me it is the opposite that is surprising. I can understand that love does not always last forever but why should it turn to dislike rather than friendship? Surely if there was love then there must have been attractive qualities on both sides? I've always felt that in some ways it should much easier to like your ex-partners once the complications of love are out of the way. Love creates a lot of mutual expectations which can create tensions in a relationship, in its absence it becomes easy to just be friends.
If you dislike (or sometimes even hate) someone you used to love it's as if you were rejecting a part of yourself, refusing to accept your past self as a part of who you are now.
It’s kindof like refusing to get tattoos on the basis that you will evolve and may not like that past self anymore
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